Intentional Parenting

by Michelle Acker on December 4, 2010

in Learning the Art of Living

Okay, I need to start by saying~ I really don’t like that title, Intentional Parenting. Makes it sound like I’ve come up with some all new parenting style. All I mean by it is that I’m trying to make intentional, thoughtful decisions about what I’m doing to help my kids grow up to be happy, healthy, responsible, faithful, adults. Hopefully. Check back with me in 10-15+ years and I’ll let you know how it went. 😉

My boys

Two quick things (besides the usual bedtime stories/routines) that we’re doing which fit into this idea:

~1~  Each of the boys has one of those flip notebooks, and along with bedtime stories, we have just started talking & making a list of what they are thankful for each day.  It’s my intention to help them develop an ‘attitude of gratitude’.  I want for them to be in the habit of counting their many blessings instead of focusing on what they don’t have.  (Especially because they are blessed enough to have their ‘don’t haves’ only be wants, and not necessities.  You know… Don’t have a DS, don’t have an Xbox Kinect, etc….)

~2~ I am going to ‘Build UP Love’ for them. I just found this idea in a Challenge for Parents over at Layton Family Joy. I think this idea would be great to do for anyone you love, child or adult, because we all need encouragement.  In her post, Stef is encouraging us to “Build up confidence in your children – build up healthy self esteem -build up love!!” This is a super easy, meaningful thing to for your kids (or anyone you love).   Again, it’s a way to focus on the good, and not on the negative. Please take a minute, click on the link above, and read her post. It will be well worth your time.

How do you focus on the positive?

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Lori December 4, 2010 at 4:08 PM

Jeff just got a DVD (No Arms, No Legs, No Worries) of Nick Vujicic, he is speaker that emphasizes that obstacles are opportunities. We all need to learn to think “out of the box” and rethink how we look at things. Being thankful is a great first step.

Michelle December 4, 2010 at 8:04 PM

That sounds like a great DVD! You’ll have to tell me more about it when you get here. You’re so right about needing to think ‘out of the box’.

Elizabeth @claritychaos December 4, 2010 at 8:48 PM

Love your idea of getting them started with a gratitude journal at a young age. I think I might try it with my boys (at least the two older ones) too. How fun for them to be able to look back on it when they’re older.

I actually like your title of Intentional Parenting. I’ve thought about instinctual parenting (go with your heart, your gut — not some ‘expert’ checklist of what it takes to fit in under a certain labeled parenting style/philosophy), but I really like intentional, because that’s what it really all comes down to. Giving thought to the decisions we make and not just doing something because that’s ‘the way people do it’.

Love it, and great ideas.

Michelle December 4, 2010 at 9:43 PM

Thanks, Elizabeth for your thoughtful comment. I hadn’t even thought about them being able to go back and look at their journals when they are older. How fun that will be!
I agree with you about not liking the ‘expert’ checklists, etc. I am a big fan of doing what works for your own family, even if that might be different from everyone else.

SomeGirl December 6, 2010 at 9:16 PM

LOVE the journal idea! Just might start one here, too! I read Stef’s post the other day… great stuff there, too! 🙂

I miss you!! Let’s SERIOUSLY start that Bible Study… I’m dying over here (see today’s post)! 😉

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