I’ve come to realize that there are certain myths
in life that we all buy into…
You know the one?
Where you can’t wait until everything gets back to “normal”?
The one where you can’t wait to someday have a “normal” schedule?
Or get a “normal” amount of sleep at night?
Or have a “normal” you-fill-in-the-blank-whatever?
I realized what a myth this “normal” life is yesterday afternoon. Last week was the first week of summer vacation for my boys, and my first week of summer schedule at work. My boss is kind enough to let me adjust my schedule during the summer so I can still enjoy time with my boys. He just wanted to know when it would start. June 4th, I replied with confidence. Then I had to come back 10 minutes later and explain, “Well, June 4th, but really it’s not going to be a normal week because the boys will be up here for sports camp, so I’ll work while they’re at camp, and that means it’ll be a totally crazy schedule this week.” *sigh*
The boys and I had a fun week last week, but I was looking forward to today starting our first “normal” week of summer. Then I realized we’re volunteering each morning for a an hour with the Feed Our Kids mission. Huh. Okay, so not normal this week either. Next week will be a “normal” week though! Aaaaahhhh. Finally!
Oh, wait. The boys are going on vacation with Nana next week.
NOT “normal” after all.
That’s when it hit me.
“Normal” is a myth.
Normal is a mirage that we all think is there, and we keep reaching for it, and just as soon as we think we’ve almost grasped it, it fizzles into thin air.
Why do we keep doing this to ourselves? Measuring everything up against this standard of “normal” that almost never happens because life gets in the way, schedules get changed, someone gets sick, cars need repair… You name it. The only thing that’s “normal” about life is that it’s always changing. Just the second you think you’ve got it figured out, you don’t.
And that’s okay.
It’s okay for life to be NOT normal
if you plan for life to be that way…
If you plan to be flexible and just try to enjoy the ride, then not normal is no problem. The disillusionment only comes when we judge that crazy mixed up life against some mirage of a so-called “normal” life.
Take life as it comes. Stop judging it against the mirage.
Life is good, even when the crazy sets in and threatens to overwhelm you. Instead of reaching desparately for something that almost never happens, remember that the only thing that’s “normal” about life is that it’s always changing.
There’s a saying where I used to live: “If you don’t like the weather, just wait a minute. It will change.”
The same is true for life. If things are so upside down that you feel like you’re just barely treading water, just hang on. It’ll change before you know it.
Something to think about…